We are the Spinda family (John, Shanna & Stella Mae) from Murray, KY... on February 1, 2011 at 10:27am our beautiful baby girl, Stella Mae Spinda, was born at 26 weeks gestation. She weighed 12.34 oz and was 9 in long - Stella suffered from Intrauterin Growth Restriction (IUGR) which caused both her extremely small size and her being born premature. Stella spent five days in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) at Norton/Kosair Hospital in Louisville, KY. She passed away late on February 5, 2011 from complications of her extremely small size. This blog was started when she was 23 gestational weeks old and we discovered her condition. It's original purpose was to keep family and friends updated on Stella's journey - we now hope to use this blog as a way to continue Stella's journey by honoring her memory and also as a way to support others who are struggling with infertility or have lost a pregnancy or baby.

Monday, January 17, 2011


Going to try to make this fast because there is so much to do. First and most importantly, Mom and baby are doing well physically (but Mom is frustrated, as am I). Shanna was seen at West Penn Hospital today by another specialist. Unfortunately for us, he (and this supposed "family friend" that runs the NICU - and broke his word to us) were nowhere near as compassionate or interested in going the extra mile to help our situation as our previous specialist was in Louisville. The way it was summed up to me is that the West Penn staff basically ignored the advice given to them in Shanna's file (by a specialist that has TAUGHT neonatal care as a professor at the University of Louisville for 18 years) and had a "what do you want us to do" kind of attitude.
So we are left with two opinions...two choices. Both hospitals are top-grade (level III) NICU units. One choice involves staying at West Penn with a crass, reactant specialist who is only going to admit Shanna when something is wrong (and potentially too late), or going to Louisville where the specialist is interested and passionate about giving Shanna and Stella constant, proactive care. I love my family and close friends in the 'Burgh, but this is an easy decision. Janice, being the great big sister she is, will drive Shanna to Louisville first thing in the morning and I will meet them there in the afternoon. This is a decision that Shanna considered before going to Pittsburgh because she liked the specialist. Chalk it up to a "mother is always right" and go with your first instincts.
Is it rational to drive your wife 10 hours home and then have a family member drive her 6 hours the other way? Of course not, but we have one priority and one priority only here. We are going back where we should have gone all along. Louisville it is. We'll keep you updated.
There are so many of you that have offered help, support, and prayers. I want to let each of you know that I thank you and I do appreciate your kindness. I simply haven't had the time to let you know how much this really means to me.

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